I was recently visiting with some other homeschooling moms while our children were in art class together. As almost always happens, the conversation turned to our families, homeschooling, housekeeping, and all of the things that we homeschooling moms do on a regular basis.
During our conversation, one of the other moms (You know who you are!) told me that she thought I always had it all together. After I stopped laughing (Not really…but almost.), I asked her why in the world she had that idea. Her reply was that she had just always had the impression that I had it all together, that my house was always clean, that I made sure the kids got their school work done every day, that meals at my house were always on time, and so on.
While I would love for those things to be true, they aren’t! For some reason we homeschooling moms seem to always think that the other moms have everything under control, yet we ourselves don’t. The funny thing is, though, that if we all are just “real” people who are sometimes late with meals, often have messy houses, and find it difficult at times to get school done with our kiddos, who does that leave to be that “perfect” mom who’s out there somewhere? Yep! You’re right. She doesn’t exist!
That doesn’t mean that I don’t sometimes have a clean house. I do…sometimes. We get school work done most of the time, but there are definitely times (maybe days or maybe even weeks) when not much of that gets done either. Laundry is my terrible downfall, and it’s almost always undone–or at least not hung up or folded and put away. (Once when my 12-year-old was very small and her grandmother was keeping her for a couple of days, they were getting dressed to go somewhere. Her grandmother asked, “Where do you keep your clean socks?” Mary Grace happily piped up, “In the dryer!”) So you see, we all are just “real” moms. That perfect mom whose house is always clean and who always has meals on time and always gets school done is just a myth. She’s the person we all think other homeschooling moms are. She’s the person we would like to be, yet we all know deep down that we can’t be her because she’s not real.
So today (and in the future, I hope), let’s all admit to ourselves that we’re just real people. We’re not perfect. We mess up. We forget things. We sometimes lose our patience. We often have messy houses.
But it’s ok! We still have value. We still have worth. God still loves us. In fact, I think He uses these opportunities to help us realize that we aren’t perfect. If we were, we wouldn’t need Him.
I’m so thankful for my friends–some who think I have it all together and some who know better! I’m glad that God put these friends in my path to love and support me and for me to love and support back. I’m thankful that God loves me and that He allows me to make mistakes so I’ll remember that He’s the only one who really has it all together. And as long as He has it all together and I depend on Him, things will be just fine.
What about you? Do you sometimes feel like you’re the only mom who isn’t perfect? Why or why not? I’d love to hear from you!